My phone asks tough questions

I had resolved myself into taking a big step. I'm trying very hard to close the chapter. Not the book. The chapter. The book is staying open. Scrolling through my phonebook isn't lending itself very easy to trying to do this when I have to scroll past his name almost every time I go to call someone. So, I thought I'd just delete it. I'm trying to get used to the idea that he won't be calling. I certainly won't be calling for obvious reasons. So why do I need to keep the number in there? Seems reasonable, no?

So I grab the phone and I'm feeling very resolved. I find his name and click options. I scroll down to "delete contact." Then my son of a bitch phone goes and throws me for a loop. I was not expecting what for it to do what it did. It popped up with a very simple question.

"Delete all details?"

Then it showed his full name underneath the question.

Well, shit. That's not fair. I wasn't ready for THAT much resolution. Thanks for fuckin' nothin' Nokia. So, needless to say I couldn't bring myself to do it. It seems I only have one option at this point. I am going to have to change his name in my phone...

Comments

[Pollywog]

I still have my ex-husband's number on my phone and I haven't spoken to him in over a year. I also have the number of a guy I dated for about a week. I think it's okay to have them on the phone list. Really, what does it hurt? Yes, you have to scroll past the name but let's face it, he's on your mind whether you see his name or not. It's just letters on a screen. Deleting letters is not going to make it any easier. If it makes you feel better to think the number is there in case you need it, I say leave it. How's that for anti-Dr. Phil?

[delmer]

I'd change his name to ZZTop. That should put him at the very end.

My ex's number is still in my phones -- but I need to keep it there in case the boys need to call her.

[Sara]

I say delete it. Write down the number on a piece of paper and put it in that shoe box (or whatever) of ex-boyfriend memories.

[Catherine]

I have tons of old boyfriend numbers in my phone book. (and old family numbers that no longer exist...my uncle and his first wife, for one... my grandparents in Florida...)

If it would be healing to you to delete it, then do so. I like the idea of renaming the man. Definitely starting with an end-letter of the alphabet.

[islaygirl]

i don't have this problem with the exhusband. but the ex boyfriend ... ai yi yi. the entire time we were seeing each other i would delete his number at least once a week, and then we broke up and i deleted it for good. but the picture on my cell phone camera? can't do it. yes, i am a wuss.

[WordToTheWise]

DELETE!!!!! The only problem with deleting is they don't know they've been deleted. Deletion should come with a text message- "you have been deleted from XXX's phone and life- bye bye". I still have an ex-girlfriends name, but I've taken her off speed-dial (so there!) If you can't bear to delete him just yet rename him DNA (Do NOT Answer)OR you could list him under your ex-husband as ANOTHER unwanted penis.
As always, please remember, this is A Word TO The Wise, NOT A Word FROM The Wise....

[welby]

I had an ex-girlfriend's last name on the metal grate of my *shower drain*, and I can't tell you the number of times I wanted to replace it. Drove me nuts. I seriously considered taking up peeing in the shower, but ... no.